Past is passed…
26 Apr 2016
I would like to invite you on a journey as we explore one of the most common and most dis-empowering issues that inhibits personal growth; THE PAST.
It is certainly difficult to be optimistic about the future when negative things have happened in the past or when you have held a pessimistic view of life for a long time. It’s hard, it’s incredibly hard to let go of one’s pain especially if we’ve held onto it for a long time.
Nobody’s life should be defined by their pain, by the events of their past. It’s not healthy, it adds to our stress, it hurts our ability to focus, study and work, and it impacts every other relationship we have (even the ones not directly affected by the hurt). Every day you choose to hold on to the pain is another day everybody around you has to live with that decision and feel its consequences.
Please do everybody– and yourself– a big favor: Let go of the pain of the past. People who let the past seal their fate instead of strengthening their character
I understand some things are hard to get over. But you can certainly get past them.
The simple truth is that you cannot walk into the future while dragging the baggage of your past on your shoulders. You have to let go.
To make that change could be the most uncomfortable thing you do because you have been living in your comfort zone for quite some time now. One of the most astounding things I have discovered in my life is that the ability to make the changes lies within me and it lies within you.
It all begins with taking just one small step forward.
And then later on you will develop enough mental strength to keep building on that and to shape your future in a way that looks less and less like your past as you move forward, step by step.
We’ve all been hurt. You can’t be an adult– or teen– alive today who hasn’t experienced some kind of emotional pain. It hurts, I get that. And people can be evil, I hear you. Circumstances can be really harsh, it’s true. What you do with that hurt is much more important than the hurt itself. Would you prefer to get back to being an active liver of life? Or do you prefer to ruminate endlessly about the past and something that cannot be changed?
All your feelings are legitimate. It’s important to feel them fully, and then move on. Nursing your grievances indefinitely is a bad habit, because it hurts you more than it hurts them. Living your pain over and over again is the worst thing you can do to yourself. Please do not get stuck in your pain, in your hurt.
Make the decision to let it go and embrace new beginnings and a new epic life. You have to make the decision because things don’t just disappear on their own. If you don’t make this conscious choice up-front, you could end up self-sabotaging any effort to move on from this past hurt.
Are you an active participant in your own life, or simply a hopeless victim? Will you let your pain become your identity? Or are you someone deeper and more complex than that??
Focus on the present– the here and now– and joy. You can’t undo the past, all you can do is to make today the best day of your life. When you focus on the here and now, you have less time to think about the past.
Remember, if we crowd our brains– and lives– with hurt feelings, there’s little room for anything positive. It’s a choice you’re making to continue to feel the hurt, rather than welcoming joy back into your life.
Everything is waiting for you. The time is now. It’s time to push past the boundaries of the past, shatter your own glass ceiling and take your life to the next level in every area.
My name is Wellington and I seek to share strategies for successful living particularly strategies for mitigating the various risks that we face in life, strategies that would smoothen our journey through life and increase our chances of success. I hope you enjoy this article. Feel free to share with your friends.