Failure!!!-Well, not so bad after all
07 Dec 2015
Have you ever failed at something? Do you remember that huge hollow feeling in the pit of your belly? It’s a sickening feeling isn’t it? Failing a something is probably one the things that causes so much pain in many individuals. It is so bad that the prospect of failure is the reason why many never get around taking action to chase the desires of their hearts.
I am sure you have seen so many people who are so knowledgeable about a particular subject but they never gather enough courage to put their knowledge into action. What is the reason for this?
Sometimes it is people with not only knowledge, but often they have great skills and talent. Why is it that they are not taking their skills and talent and using them to achieve great things in their lives? What are they scared of?
The real truth is that many are scared of the possibility of FAILURE
Our society has attached a huge stigma to failure that makes many people fear the prospect of failure. They do not want to be identified with any failure. When someone fails at something what do people think
…….LOSER(Maybe)…….SHAME(Maybe)…….END OF THE WORLD(Yeah)……
But the real truth about failure is just the reality of it. We are fighting against reality. We fret over it, we try to avoid it, and we question ourselves every time we have unconventional ideas. But the simple truth is – no great success was ever achieved without failure. It may be one epic failure. Or a series of failures – such as Edison 10,000 attempts to create a light bulb or Dyson’s 5,126 attempts to invent a bagless vacuum cleaner. But, whether we like it or not, failure is a necessary stepping stone to achieving our dreams.
Wise is the man or woman who knows enough to divorce themselves from the negative stigma about failure. It is a reality we all have to face, every single one of us. But here’s the big question, IF EVERYONE IS DESTINED TO FAIL, THEN WHAT MAKES WINNERS, WINNERS??? How is it that those who are successful are winning even though they exist in the same world everyone does. A world in which failure is a reality.
Winners become winners, even in this environment, because they understand one important thing. FAILURE IS A NECESSARY PART OF THE JOURNEY TO YOUR DREAMS. The most important thing is to look at failure with the right mindset. You see, when you at it properly, failure is never really failure, it is always a lesson. Someone said it nicely when they said that failure is the tuition we pay for success. Henry Ford added his own perspective when he said “Failure is only the opportunity to begin again, only this time more intelligently”. Whilst we are still with the greats let me add what Winston Churchill said about success and failure “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”
It is from this final quote by Churchill that our lesson is coming from today. To you my friend as you seek to quench your thirst for achievement, remember these words: STARS CANNOT SHINE WITHOUT DARKNESS. Keep on pursuing your dreams, take determined action and keep pushing. Even if you stare failure in the face at some stage just take advice from Jack Canfield who said “Don’t worry about failure, worry about the chances you miss when you don’t even try”
Even if you do fail, consider it a delay,not a denial. Remember failure is an event, not a person. Do not waste time taking failure personally. Work to develop the resilience to learn what not to do and then come back and try again. “Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.” – Denis Waitley
If I give a bad speech today, it doesn’t make me bad speaker, it just means what I did today did not work; I’ll be back tomorrow and try something else. It is how you respond to failure that make you a failure. In fact your failure will make you a success if you look at it the right way
When you are 100 years old and look back at your life, all you can do is reflect, there’s nothing else you can do but look back on your life and reflect on all your experiences and tell the stories of the wonderful journey you have been on. You have the opportunity today, right here, right now, to choose to create that story, to be the best that you can be, to lead from within. You can’t change your past until this day, but you can shape your future starting today. Every success story is punctuated by some elements of failure or temporary setbacks, some call them challenges. But the real truth is that FAILING AT SOMETHING DOES NOT MAKE YOU A FAILURE.
My name is Wellington and I seek to share strategies for successful living particularly strategies for mitigating the various risks that we face in life, strategies that would smoothen our journey through life and increase our chances of success. I hope you enjoy this article. Feel free to share with your friends.